Part of me just wants to give up on marriage and get on with making my life as good as possible without a husband." I think a lot of singles feel this way. Some of my friends are in their late 30s and 40s and still unmarried; I can only imagine the temptation to pack up shop and embrace "Plan B" — life without marriage.Here's the thing: Giving up on a godly desire (when God hasn't obviously taken that desire from you) is a form of escapism.These 10 dating rules could change your future for the better. It is time for Christians to start talking about dating. Church, this issue shapes our young people, friends and family more than we could ever imagine. "Let's just sit back and see what happens" might work in certain scenarios, but Christian dating isn't one of them.
Without a Christian spouse, one of two things will happen: You will drift away from God or your spouse will become a functional god (more on this later). There is another dangerous mentality in Christian circles I want to address ...
"flirting to convert."Look, Christians are called to be missionaries.
But we can't be pro-active unless principles are established. I hope and pray the words from this post will spark further conversations in your ministries, relationships and homes.
Here are 10 really important principles for Christian dating.1. The truth is you could spend your life with more than one person.
Dating with a trajectory towards marriage doesn't mean you only date one person ever. So, my question is, "How does dating a non-Christian aid you in this? If you believe God is preparing you for foreign missions, is it important the person you marry shares this passion?
That would be awesome, but it's not always realistic. "If you are a Christian, God isn't a piece of your pie. Why date someone who doesn't even have God as a piece of the pie? Have a List of Values and Don't Compromise Them If you have no idea what values are important to you in a future spouse, exit the road to marriage at the next off-ramp.
It means dating someone who meets the values and goals you have for a future spouse (more on that later). It involves sharing personal struggles and vulnerability.
Casual or purposeless dating has no benefit for Christians. We are designed to know why we do stuff and where we are going. Now, please, please, please don't be a freakish weirdo. So if you choose not to get coffee or watch a movie with the opposite sex, then whatever. Don't Date Non-Christians The ultimate purpose of marriage is sanctification (becoming like God). If you love the Cowboys and your future spouse loves the Packers, is it important to work through this before marriage?
"Marriage was no longer something I refused to let go of," he says.
"It was really more of something I was seeking to trust the Lord in.
As we talked more, I realized something: Sometimes it's easier to embrace an unwanted outcome than to keep hoping for God to fulfill long-held desires.