With a few exceptions, Asian men on screen have been small, sneaky and threatening — or spineless, emasculated wimps, or incompetents who may well be technically proficient in martial arts, but impotent when faced with white man’s superior strength or firepower. Even today, Asian American men complain that action heroes such as Chow Yun Fat and Jackie Chan rarely get the girl.
CFL is like a tidal wave of American men in love with Chinese women, with only a rare American woman/Chinese husband surfacing to break the monotony. Several years ago, when my husband enrolled in a New Oriental class in Shanghai for GRE prep, the instructor warned all of the Chinese men: “If you’re going to study abroad, prepare for four lonely years.” The underlying message was, don’t expect to fall in love — but be pleasantly surprised if it happens.
There are hardly enough books depicting foreign women with Chinese boyfriends or husbands. When you have a Chinese husband or boyfriend, sometimes you feel as if you belong to a lonely club. One of my dearest e-mail friends, a woman from Germany, once found me on the net because she had a — then — Chinese boyfriend and yearned to find someone to share her experience with.
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When I’m in China, I tend to turn a lot of heads, especially in the countryside — and that’s not just because I’m a foreigner.
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When I posed the question about how important it was that a potential romantic partner be fit, the vast majority said either “very” important or “somewhat” important. If you’re single and ready to mingle and would like to be considered for our private Facebook singles group, there’s a flat membership fee.I was shocked that they couldn’t see the hypocrisy in that line of thinking.The fierce anger and backlash of my frankness caused me to retreat on the issue, and years passed as I saw the evidence of what I said come to pass.But if you want to see what the world can really be like for you, it’s time to take the pink pill.And like Neo, you’ll have the choice to go on in your mundane illusion, or have your eyes opened to see what lies ahead. It’s not going to be talk that will spare your feelings.There was one Chinese boyfriend who told me, flat out, that his parents would never accept me.