Although affair provided love, affection, an escape it just made me feel more lonely at home as I was always longing to be with the AP.
My husband and I had to become real with each other about why our marriage was falling apart.
He learned things at rehab and I at individual counseling. I know it is NOT easy, turning to alcohol will just make you more depressed. I'm exactly the same and the only advice you can get is to "spice up your marriage" or "find something in common".
On the mental health front, loneliness puts us at risk for depression and anxiety and causes us to distort our perceptions such that we view ourselves, our lives, and our relationships more negatively—which in turn, influences our behavior in damaging ways.
How Loneliness Impacts Our Relationships Loneliness distorts how we see other people and makes us devalue our relationships.
My sex life when I was single was rich and varied and continuous.
I don't know which came first here, the chicken or the egg.
But they are also probably trapped in a cycle of emotional disconnection and feel helpless to break it.
Try to initiate conversations that are not about transactional details.
I was so glad to read your posting because I thought I was the only one and was losing my mind from the sheer loneliness day after day after day. I am a live in maintenance man to pay the bills and shut up. Made love to my wife less than 10 times in 20 years. This was a vicious cycle that lasted for years, more he drank, more I pulled away.