“It’s a misconception that when men are stressed, they just want sex,” explains Dr. “Not only do they want to be left alone, but they can feel an acute sense of performance anxiety.” And if anything will make the situation worse for a guy, it’s a poor showing in bed.Give him some space, and in no time he’ll be looking at you with hungry eyes again.
“If a woman wants me to open up, she should offer an opposing opinion on whatever she thinks is bothering me,” he explains.
“She could say ‘Seems like you and your new boss are getting along.’ I’ll almost always take the bait and start talking.” The problem is, knowing why he’s frustrated isn’t easy without ESP.
And as most women know, I’m not the exception to the rule.
“Men have a strong fight or flight response,” explains Dr.
When he’s having troubles, he won’t be as emotionally and mentally equipped as usual to listen to the daily issues that most people face.
That’s not to say you shouldn’t turn to him for support at all, only that you might want to be more judicious in what you bring up.Friends or family will listen to your daily issues for the time being, thereby giving your date the space he needs to deal with his difficulties and come back as caring as ever.If your guy isn’t willing to open up to you, then it’s a safe bet he doesn’t want his crisis shared with anyone else, even if that means keeping his troubles a secret from friends or family.Keep your eyes open, and more than likely he’ll tip his hand soon enough to give you a conversational inroad.“Often a woman ends up feeling abandoned or rejected when a man withdraws due to stress,” says Dr. “That triggers her own defense strategies.” And that only makes things worse.Here’s advice from experts and real guys about what works.