I’ve benefitted greatly thriving in this country from having him in my life, and I recognize that.His English has also improved, since that’s the main language we communicate in due to the fact that his English is better than my Italian.I, being from liberal Los Angeles where you can be whoever you are/want to be, oddball and all, am very open minded and accepting to different types of people.
“Do they really have crazy parties where everyone is drunk and doing stupid things all the time?! “Um, I mean, I guess, but not like every weekend, and definitely not in high school in the way you see it in the movies.
That’s usually how it is in college.” I would respond.
I’ve lived with all my other serious relationships, right?
Well, just like marriage proposals in Italy (which are not an event or proper proposal like in the US), neither is asking someone to move in together.
I, admittedly, assumed that Italians were all about family, nosey in-laws, marriage, babies and all the other stereotypical traditions that come to mind when you think of Italians. In my experience (Tuscany), it’s normal that couples date for long periods of time- I’m talking years in the double digits- before marriage.
Hell, it’s even normal for them to live together and have a baby before ever even thinking of a wedding!There are definitely pros to match the cons of our situation.A is fascinated with learning about American culture from an American and used to constantly ask silly questions about what he’s seen in movies thinking it was true.Then, after a couple has been living together, marriage is the there’s the whole why-buy-the-cow-if-you-can-get-the-milk-for-free situation. Maybe it’s because of the economy and couples need two incomes nowadays to survive without worrying about more expenses like a wedding; or maybe because it’s really hard to get a divorce in this traditional, Catholic based country so they want to be extra sure they’re making the right choice. That being said, I’m still American and have my own set of values and ideas of how things should go in a relationship.I have lived with boyfriends in past serious relationships, but A has never lived with a girlfriend, so for him, it’s a big deal to leave home.When my boyfriend and I, who I will refer to as “A”, first started dating, I had a hard time adjusting to the cultural norms of Italians in general.