Examine your feelings, and decide when you are ready to start dating again, but don't wait too long.Try not to overlook the male friends within your social circle as potential dates.
According to Schneider, it's particularly important to allow men the ability to pursue you in this modern age of technology. Once a guy knows you're interested by initiating conversation, it kind of throws the whole chase off." Schneider cautions women to not be so accessible.
"If I can reach you on Facebook, can text you or tweet you - there's no mystery. It's just instant hook-ups and contact and everything's last minute," says Schneider. "Women are texting guys in the middle of the night, back and forth for hours, and they're not getting dates.
What worked for your parents may not work for you, and what works for you may not work for future generations.
Setting ground rules for your own dating life will keep your emotions in check, and may even increase your chances of finding a suitable partner.
If following rules while playing the dating game seems stifling to you, instead consider the rules to be a protective measure.
"Dating can be very emotional," says Sherrie Schneider, co-author of The Rules series of dating advice books.
Use common sense when dating and think twice before allowing yourself a romantic encounter on a whim.
Schneider suggests waiting for sexual encounters for as long as possible, and only after you're in a committed relationship. "It's not just pregnancy; technology has gotten to the point to where nothing is private.
Cosmopolitan says that male friends are actually good candidates for a romantic relationship because there is a good chance that they have already seen all sides of you.
This minimizes the potential for feeling awkward while trying to get to know someone new. You already know and respect each other; as long as there is an attraction present, there is no reason why your guy friend may not someday be your love interest.
"Guys that don't ask you out are either in other relationships or they just aren't available for whatever reason," says Schneider.