Dude, if you realized that, why did you message me anyway and tell me that?I felt like ignoring him might make things weird at work, so I just messaged back noncommittally (like, “Ha, look who it is”), hoping I could move the conversation to peter out without making it awkward.
Mostly my attitude was “ #don’tcrossthestreams Another true story: Years ago colleague who was new in town messaged me once on OK Cupid and we went for a friendly coffee before we knew we’d be working together. Upon being “introduced” at work, we never mentioned or even hinted that we had met each other before in any other context. If your coworker has got overall good intentions and is also feeling awkward about what to do next like, “” and then block him. Blocks are often necessary to make a social site usable.
Then, keep work conversations only about work and wait for the awkward levels to normalize.
Like you, my strategy has been either to totally ignore it or to be like “” and then drop the conversation completely.
Whether I ignored or said something depended a lot on context and the vulnerability of what was on display in their ad.
However, things got awkward anyway, because coworker continued sending messages despite my polite attempts to disengage (“[Cool, unsolicited weekend plan you shared] sounds fun. ” …and then he’d send another message trying to continue the conversation.) I read and did not respond to the last message.
I’m sure I should communicate that I feel uncomfortable chatting with a coworker on a dating site, so do you have any scripts for that?
It might be useful in general to know how to stop an inappropriate interaction like this in the future, so what would you have done? It’s not inherently weird to be on the same dating site as other people you know in other contexts.
It feels weird because the illusion of privacy has been punctured for a moment, but it’s not actually that strange. I believe I have shared the story of the Shadowy Dating Juggernaut where Commander Logic and I and both of her roommates and a few other friends in the Bespectacled Bookish Brunettes of Chicago Knitting Circle And Culinary Society were on Ok Cupid at the same time, right?
Since then, the site has gone from strength to strength, with thousands of people from the UK and Ireland joining every month and many thousands of success stories.
Whilst our team has expanded over the years, we're still a family-run business, operating out of a converted barn on a farmyard in Northamptonshire, and pride ourselves on our friendly customer-service and the fact that we are the only independent dating site for genuine country-minded people.
Or would it be better to just block him and pretend it never happened?