About 30% of the victims of sexual harassment are men.
Needless to say, every line of evidence we have shows men are less likely to report harassment that happens to them than women are. I mean, for one thing, we’re telling people to stop using the phrase “pregnant mothers” since sometimes transgender men get pregnant.
It seems kind of contradictory to think of this as a pressing issue, but also think that the fact that only 30% of harassment victims are men means that we should always use female pronouns for generic harassment victims, and always generically call perpetrators “males in position of power”. Suppose I write about how we need to do more to support the victims of terrorism. But what if I write about how we need to do more to support the Christian victims of Muslim terrorism? If I write story after story about how Christians need to be on the watch out for Muslim terrorists, but Muslims need to be on the watch out for other Muslims being terrorists, and if I tell Muslim victims of Christian terrorism to stay silent because that’s not “structural oppression” – then that “maybe” turns to “obviously”.
The story is that women are always victims and totally understand exactly what’s going on, and men are always perpetrators with their fingers in their ears denying that a problem exists.
We are told to worry about Why Women Don’t Report Sexual Harassment (against themselves) but about Why Men Don’t Speak Up About Sexual Harassment (that they see happening against women). Our society already has an answer to this, and in every other case, the answer is no.
The mainstream media strongly discouraged men from coming forward with their own cases, with articles like I’m a man who has been sexually harassed – but I don’t think it’s right for men to join in with #Me Too.
Their excuse was the usual – it’s not “structural oppression”, so it doesn’t count.
The viral Facebook message that started #Me Too – at least the one I saw – urged women to come forward with their stories of sexual harassment, and men to come forward with stories of times they perpetrated sexual harassment.
The slogan “BELIEVE WOMEN” got enshrined into a mantra, pretty ominous if you’re a guy wondering whether people will believe your harasser’s story over yours.
By freak coincidence I came across this story from last month where Mariah Carey’s bodyguard accused her of sexually harassing him.
Carey is much higher-profile than most of the men involved.
I had a chief harass me daily which resulted in administrative actions when I tried resisting her abuse.