“I hung in there for a few more months but the truth is that I really wanted to drink during that time: He and his friends made it look so appealing.
As with everything in recovery, you must be open and willing—even if all the advice you get goes against your gut.
If you’re stuck in a situation where there is no time to gather wisdom—say your partner’s mom hands you a glass of wine during a visit—don’t stress.
It’s all about being totally happy, honest and clean.
When in doubt about anything, ask yourself: How does this advance my sobriety? ”Lucia, a 30-year-old who works in TV industry in Los Angeles and has been sober for five years, says, “Most everyone—sober or not—has problems and issues and baggage.
“I started dating a guy who told me he didn’t drink,” she recalls.
“We had very civilized, nice dates but, after a while, I started to catch onto the fact that he really did drink—he was just trying to control his drinking and never indulged around me.
Also, does the mismatch include one partner being alcoholic?
A few months later, I heard some news about Jeff from our mutual friend: In case you forgot, Sunday is the annual buzzkill also known as Valentine's Day.
Should you follow Faulkner’s advice and ask your beloved attend meetings?
Do you invite him or her along to socialize with your sober posse? Bring your questions to everyone you know with more sober experience: Ask your sponsor, your sober fellowship, and, if you’re the praying type, pray for guidance.
The rules of dating had shifted completely since I was a young lass and, without the social lubricant of martinis or wine, my old-school M. of getting wasted and ending up in bed with a cute guy from the party clearly wasn’t an option. Insensitive, I have gone on hundreds of dates—a handful with guys from the rooms but mostly online finds, generally social drinkers. So I decided to look into what’s worked for other sober folks, and to see what experts had to say about the matter of dating in recovery.