A hard session leaves you wide open on the looks front, too: stringy hair, wet patches, grunting like a warthog. That’s a sure-fire way to overstep those boundaries.
You look like s***, and your PT doesn’t even grimace. “If you’re lacking confidence, sharing sensitive details is a big emotional hurdle to overcome, but can create intimacy,” says psychologist James Lamper. READ: 3 Moves To Boost Your Pelvic Floor & Your Libido It’s standard to text your PT to say what you’ve eaten, or when you’re working out. Reader Rosie Smith had a near marital mishap, and it was down to her PT.
There I was on my back, mid core move, wailing about the fact my boyfriend still fancied his ex. But here’s the catch: “We’re paid to be nice,” says PT and WH Guy Next Door James Hardy.
RULE NO.1: Understand that any compliments he/she gives you is part of their job – not a foil to get you into bed.
You’re beautiful.” In the real world, that kind of intimacy is followed by loins locking with the force of a neodymium magnet. (A study in shows getting a compliment gives the same positive feeling as receiving cash.) So a man who’s nice to you and asks questions. But sure, it’s to keep them coming back, too.” PT of eight years Si Tate agrees.
That’s when Oliver bent down, cupped my face and whispered: “He’s lucky to have you. “Dishing out compliments makes our clients feel good and more motivated to train.
Too embarrassed to complain, she canceled her membership and joined a gym farther away.
Few professional relationships throw people into such physical intimacy as one-on-one gym training; and few are as fraught with the peril of crossing business and pleasure.
READ: 6 Questions You Should Ask Your Personal Trainer For most people, hiring a PT is based on one thing: a desire to look and feel better.
The PTs I have spoken to for this piece all say that most women arrive a little vulnerable. Exercise is their way of finding clarity about where they’re at and where they’re going, both physically and psychologically.
Sometimes the intensity and long hours breed genuine friendships, as they did for Jody Johannessen, a marketing professional who works out at La Palestra, an exclusive Manhattan gym, with two trainers, one of whom is Marissa O'Neil.