Many women also cannot deal with being second, even if it is for a few hours a week.
And God forbid, you get any female attention before, during or after the show. Musicians seemto be stereotyped as a bunch of alkies and druggies, which might be a turn off to some.
Furthermore, I only play out a few times a month, so it’s not like it’s a daily routine… the one thing I can think of is that to alot of musicians, music comes first.
It just doesn’t seem to be that big of a deal too me!!!! I have many musician friends and they have a hard time keeping a relationship going because of the time they spend practicing and then travelling to gigs.
I think most women want to be the persued object (and even just a little) the band thing juxtaposes that.
You won’t believe this advise could come from a gospel musician who is supposed to know better but we all have opinions, don’t we?
But if you’re just doing it for fun, it shouldn't be that difficult to maintain a good relationship... Allgood I'm thinkin this is just some lame a$$ed excuse not to date you.
I am wondering if I should take that part out of my profile... People have all sorts of interests including music and for her to say she won't date you because you're a drummer sounds fishy.When I asked why, she said, "I just couldn't deal with it"... I was usually to timid to sit with someone during the breaks and if you'll look around the next time you see a live band in a bar, see if the band members don't (for the most part) kind of congregate with their own little group rather than mingle with the rest of the customers. Because people come in stressed, sometimes grumpy, have a couple - three drinks, loosen up, dance a little, start smiling, and have a good time. I play for the smiling, appreciation, watching people dancing and having a good time. I have been in the scene for a while so when we do play out it’s more like going to a party with friends!!!You would think being talented at something would be a turn on... I typically don’t party when the bar closes because I do have a day job that pays the bills, so I am always up by in the morning….Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. Actually I play all over & I am usually doing studio gigs, which doesn’t involve bars at all…A girl recently told me that she loved my profile & thought I was cute, but she couldn't date a drummer... I've played plenty of bars (keyboards), and by the time you get all the equipment torn down and loaded & the barkeep comes up with your paltry pay, all the girls have gone home with someone when the bar closed down (and the band stopped playing). When I do play at bars/clubs it’s usually a party atmosphere more than anything…I mean you could be into taxidermy or something very strange.