When that coworker is also a romantic partner, you need to find a strategy to allow yourself to feel frustrated without letting that drag your relationship down.
This principle is also why HR manuals routinely have rules about supervisors and supervisees dating.
For other coworkers, there are no clear ethical problems with having a dual relationship, but it is important to be aware of the tension that these two roles can create both for yourselves and for the way you are perceived by your coworkers.
One thing you will need to consider is how you can each take some space from each other when needed.
Everyone has had days when they are angry with a coworker because of something that has happened at work.
That may save a tense discussion in the short-term, but it opens up opportunities for long-term problems. You might not even be at the point where you want to announce this relationship to your close friends.
Once you are ready to be seen as a couple, though, you have to let your colleagues know.For example, with most colleagues, if there is something they do at work that you disagree with, you discuss it and then you each go back and work on the project some more.With a romantic partner, you might just try to fix a problem you see at work without confronting your partner about it.Is this something we have to bring up with our boss? Thanks, BG Dear BG: It is not surprising that you have gotten into a relationship with someone at work.You spend about a third of your life while you’re awake at work.You don’t want people thinking that you are just doing things to advance each other’s careers or so that you can spend time with each other.