) One of the most transformational ways I support women is by helping you better understand GROWNUP men.The definition of empathy is “the power of understanding and imaginatively entering into another person’s feelings.She insists he give and give with little or no reciprocity; after all, he’s the The Man and she’s his prize!
She mistrusts men and often blames herself for the rejection she’s felt, believing that she just wasn’t good enough.
She says things like “I need him to say he wants a relationship, and then I’ll open up,” or “Once he gets to know me, he probably won’t like me.” The Scaredy Cat may put her guy through lots of tests before she feels confident that he’s truly interested.
When he passes those tests or shows he has feelings for her, she questions it and might up the ante.
She picks fights, picks the wrong guys, or maneuvers relationships to end because it gives her control.
This “I’m never going to find a good relationship” gal leaves men unable to get any traction during courting or in a relationship.
The wall she has erected is just too high for him to climb in order to get to the other side.Her life isn’t going the way she wants and she just can’t figure out why.With men, she might complain that they just “don’t get her,” but the truth is that she’s giving them every reason to head for the hills with her off-handed comments and negativity. People ask me all the time whether I offer dating and relationship coaching for single men. So I thought I’d tell you about the experience men have when they’re trying to “date like a grownup.” If you’ve read my e Book, 7 Secrets to Finally Finding Love after 40, you know that I believe strongly that empathizing with men is absolutely essential to your dating and relationship success. Just like women, the men you’re dating have lived and learned.She gets stuck in affairs with men who never commit, and it’s often the nice guys who are interested in her who bear the brunt of her hurt and anger.