The concept of fantasy is basically saying that online daters arent falling in love with each other; theyre falling in love with the idea of being in love.
Barnes is not saying that online daters are desperate (the same thing happens off the net) but she is saying that the fantasy is more likely to happen.
The first rule of safety according to Natalie Rosa of The Echo is to use an anonymous identity (Rosa, par. An anonymous identity is supposed to protect you from other people on the Internet that might be lying; lying has turned into an accepted behavior on the Internet.
Lying happens so often on Internet dating services that Japan is considering a law that might minimize it.
Sherry Turkle, Sociology of Science professor at MIT, believes that this new age of communication provokes people to create another aspect of them to portray online.
The woman in the quote above admits that the personality that she portrays online isnt a complete lie, but just an embellishment of her positive attributes combined with a few attributes that she wishes she had.
This statement, based on the womans statement above, does not pertain to online relationships; couples can be dating for years online without completely trusting each other. Im just hoping that face-to-face I can find a way to spend some time being the online me (Turkle 179).
The reason that so many people are hesitant to put their complete trust into an online relationship is because numerous people exaggerate or lie about who they are: I would say I feel more like myself. Even if the changes are small, such as acting more outgoing, theyre still not completely honest.If someone exaggerates who they are in a profile they are not being honest and any relationship that stems from that will lack complete trust and honesty because of these small lies.For example, if I lied and said that I was tall and blonde in my profile I would question the validity of others profiles because I lied in my own; if I lied about who I was, Im sure that other people lie a well.This lack of accountability, for some, turns the online world into pure fantasy.In an article by Susan Barnes the appeal of online dating is defined as fantasy: People can fall in love with the idea of love and project a fantasy image on others (Barnes 139).According to Joe Schwartz there are five different types of people that register for dating services: the seeker, nester, hormone, butterfly, and dabbler.